When we first think of the word “bullying,” it is easy to go back to when we were young and experienced someone not being nice to us. Hurtful things people have told us in the past or even very recently experiences can really affect us as individuals.

Often we tend to try and overlook or downplay different remarks in order to not seem weak, overly emotional, or for various other reasons. However, the comments and actions of others can cut us deep and have lasting affects if we choose to carry them instead of fight for the truth.

Many times it is easy for us to exist without even realizing the ways that we have been hurt. Other times, our flesh only wants to see those that have hurt us get what “they deserve.” Our mind can become polluted with negative thoughts or desires against a person that has hurt us, which only ultimately puts us in bondage.

In Luke 6:27-28, it says: “But I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.” Isn’t it crazy how Jesus literally flips upside down how our flesh would handle things?

Then, in Romans 12:20-21 it is written: “To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”

Jesus tells us to provide for any need our persecutors have. Out of the love that we give them, our persecutors start to realize the areas they hurt and then tend to hurt others out of that place.

Take the time to identify the areas that you have been hurt by others, are currently being persecuted, or have or are persecuting others. God wants to speak into all of those areas. He doesn’t ask us to all at once dig up everything from our past, but rather just leave room for Him to speak. Areas of hurt that we may have tried to brush aside, He wants to bring healing. He doesn’t ask us to stay in those places of hurt because He is just that good.

Psalm 18:3 says “I called to the Lord, who is worthy of praise, and I have been saved from my enemies.” He just asks us to call on His name and pursue to live by His standard of truth, nothing less.


God, I thank you that you are so good. I thank you that you never ask me to settle for anything less than your truth. Holy Spirit, please reveal to me the areas that I have been hurt by others and have tried to ignore. I ask that you speak into those areas. Please reveal to me the truth of what you have to say. I ask for the grace in processing through that pain and to make it nothing less and nothing more than what it is. God, please reveal to me if there is anyone or any area where I have persecuted others. Please show me if there is an area I hurt in and therefore persecute others. God, I ask that you would fill me up with your love. May I learn to love myself the way that you love me and in turn love others with that same love as well.


Author | Jamie Cherf