Love | Rejoices in Truth

Love | Rejoices in Truth

The way that we love others matters. This goes for every relationship we have with another person. Think about the times you have felt well loved by someone. What did it look like? What did it look when someone didn’t love you as well as they should?

Thankfully, 1 Corinthians 13 gives us a perfect roadmap of how the way we love should look. Verse 6 says “Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.” There are two aspects of love on display here: a repulsion of evil and a devotion to truth.

In order for us to pursue godly love in all of our relationships, we have to keep these two ideas close.

What does it look like for us to rejoice in truth out of love?

It looks like us knowing what God says about His children. When we know who we are and who others are in Him, we are able to love first. We can view others through the lens of love and see them for who God created them to be.

What would happen if we sought to see everyone we encounter this way, even people that aren’t inside our inner circles? We might extend more grace when people make mistakes that frustrate us. We might go out of our way to be kind to those we are not obligated. In every relational situation, we can rejoice in the truth of people’s identities as children of God and treat them as the royalty they are.

Jesus told us He is The Way, The Truth, and The Life. When we know Jesus, we know what truth is. We know the promise and the victory we have because of Jesus.

Rejoicing in truth through love looks like persevering with one another when things become difficult. When storms come, it is our place as friends, family members, and spouses to be a mouthpiece for truth in difficult seasons, encouraging our people to a point of joyful hope in the goodness of God. Likewise, we get to witness our loved ones continually stepping more into the truth of who God created them to be and what He has for them, and it is our privilege to celebrate them with every small step and massive breakthrough.

The second part of this concept is the rejection of evil things. This means when bad things happen to other people, we feel sorrow for those things. When tragedy strikes those with whom we have relationship, we empathize and hurt for the injustice inflicted upon our people. When those we love are trapped in sin struggles, we do not encourage them in that path but rather encourage them out of it and into truth.

Perhaps most difficult is for us to not delight in the evils done to those that have wronged us in the past. Operating in love means to reject the satisfaction that situation might bring us and instead, rejoice in the truth of that person’s identity as a child of God. To not delight in evil means to alternatively delight in the truth of God’s affection towards His people.

The Father said that the greatest everlasting thing that we have is love. If love is our most powerful tool, we must approach every relationship with a desire to see the truth of the glory of God housed inside the people we interact with. Beyond that, we seek to celebrate it.

Love looks like rejoicing in sonship, breakthrough, and victory -- truths that we know we have because of who God is.


Lord, I pray that in every relationship I have, you would give me your eyes to see the truth of who people are and who you are towards them. Help me to rejoice and celebrate their life and every good thing they step into. Give me the courage and bravery to stand up in love against the evils that may come their way and to hold fast to the truth and hope of your victory in difficult seasons. Help me to love better and to love first. Amen.


Author | Kalli Drake

Love | Is Not Self-Seeking

Love | Is Not Self-Seeking

Putting others before myself is much easier said than done. I am much happier to help someone when it fits in perfectly with my schedule. I am much more motivated by self than by service. However, Jesus says that I’m supposed to deny myself, take up my cross, and follow him (Luke 9:23).

So what does it really mean to love in a way that is not self-seeking?

I think one of the most clear examples of how love is not self-seeking is when Jesus is praying in the garden of Gethsemane before he is crucified. In the garden, he prays and asks God if there is any other way to save the world. When God says no, he willfully submits to his Father’s plan.

At no point does Jesus deny the fact that this plan is inconvenient, painful, and hard. But when God tells him to do something, he denies himself, picks up his cross (literally), and follows God.

To love in a way that is not self-seeking means that your end goal is not to serve yourself.

When Jesus died on the cross, he was serving the world, not himself. And yet, God still exalted him. Loving well doesn’t mean that you have to suffer. It means that you try to give more than you get, trusting that God sees the work done in secret and will honor your obedience.

In order to love selflessly, you have to trust that God is constantly loving you selflessly. God’s love will always outweigh the love you show to others, meaning you will never run out of love to give.

Cleaning up after your roommate, driving a friend to class, joining LEAD at Wesley, or staying up late to listen to a friend who needs you isn’t always convenient or easy. Sometimes when we love well, we lose time and sleep. But serving others in love is never done in vain.

God sees every moment you deny yourself and choose to serve others. He will honor your obedience and will always fill you back up with his love. This week, spend some time asking God to reveal ways that you have been putting your needs above the needs of others. Ask him to highlight specific people that you need to serve. Maybe take time to write your people encouraging notes or send them a text to let them know how much you love them. And then, take your needs to God and ask him to satisfy them.


Father, thank you that your love for me is sufficient, that in you, I have all that I need. Give me your heart for service and help me to take the steps needed to live it out. Show me what areas of my life need to be surrendered to you and who I need to love better.


Author | Emily Baker

Remedy | Series Recap Video

In this video, Becca and Hunter give an overview of Wesley's "Remedy" series. If you missed any of the messages and you want to know the key concepts, check it out!

Testimony Video | Erin Gilleland

In this video, Erin explains how God set her free from idolizing success and achievement, and showed her how to live for Him.

Testimony Video | Zari Wilson

In this video, Zari tells us how God moved through her passions for racial reconciliation and led her to the Wesley internship.

Remedy | Complacency

Remedy | Complacency


Without a doubt, there have been times in all our lives when we’ve felt complacent. Times when we feel like there’s nothing to be done, when our passion simply dwindles and we aren’t sure why, when we decide we are okay with settling for less than something’s full potential.

In church culture, complacency is a word that’s thrown around a lot.

Complacency is defined as “a calm satisfaction with one’s own abilities or situation that prevents one from trying harder.” Another source says it’s “a feeling of smug or uncritical satisfaction with oneself or one’s achievements.” There may be a million ways to say it, but it all comes back to the idea that we have become self-sufficient, and proud of it.

In Revelation 3, Jesus speaks to three churches: Sardis, the “dead” church, Philadelphia, the “faithful” church, and Laodicea, the “lukewarm” church. In verses 15-17, Jesus addresses Laodicea, saying, “I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot; I wish that you were cold or hot. So because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of My mouth. Because you say, ‘I am rich, and have become wealthy, and have need of nothing,’ and you do not know that you are wretched and miserable and poor and blind and naked, I advise you to buy from Me gold refined by fire so that you may become rich, and white garments so that you may clothe yourself…”

It’s crazy to me that after addressing a church he considered “dead,” Jesus tells the church of Laodicea that he wishes they were either hot or cold!

With my limited perspective, it seems like there are plenty of worse things than being lukewarm— being dead is one of them! But according to Jesus, it’s better to be dead in sin, recognize our need, and repent, than become lukewarm towards Jesus out of our own self-sufficiency.

Self-sufficiency points back to one thing: pride.

It’s the idea that we are capable of fulfilling every need, plan, and purpose ourself. Without even realizing it, self-sufficiency laughs in the face of Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross for our sins, because we don’t recognize our need for a savior.

Proverbs 3:34 tells us that “The Lord mocks the mockers, but is gracious to the humble” (NLV). James 4:6 and 1 Peter 5:5 reference this by saying, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”

The Bible makes it pretty clear that if we don’t want God to be in opposition to us, our remedy is to practice humility.

If we don’t know what that looks like, Jesus gives us the perfect example through his own life! He served his disciples, made time for those the culture denied, and was patient when he had the right to fire back. Ultimately, he gave up his rights as God in Heaven and came to Earth with all human limitations, lived a blameless life, and still chose to die for us.

In John 12:49, Jesus says, “For I did not speak on my own, but the Father who sent me commanded me to say all that I have spoken.” Jesus—who was fully God—chose to be dependent on the Father.

If Jesus chose dependency, how much more do we need to recognize our own need and choose dependency and humility instead of self-sufficiency?


Lord, I pray that we would recognize our own limitations, and from a humble place we would come to you, completely expecting you to show up. Thank you that you love us so much that you sent your son to die for us, fully knowing we wouldn’t always appreciate it in the way Jesus deserves. We surrender our lives to you and declare that you have our best interests at heart, and that you have the wisdom and authority to lead us into the places you are calling us. Thank you for your faithfulness. Thank you for your unfailing love. Thank you for your son. Amen.


Author | Erin Gilleland

Testimony Video | Sarah Colwell

In this video, Sarah explains how God used the first year internship retreat to show her what it means to be His daughter, and that He is fully for her.

Remedy | Family Brokenness

Remedy | Family Brokenness

God’s truth is a remedy for the lies that get stuck in our heads; the lies that satan whispers to us when we're scared. And one of those lies is this: "the brokenness that I see in my family will always be there.”

Family is one of the greatest gifts that we have in this life, but for many of us, its also one of the areas of our lives that is the hardest to hope for. Read 1 Corinthians 13 and pay specific attention to verse 7: “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.”


The brokenness that you see in your family doesn’t stand a chance against the God of Creation and the hope that you have in him to bring restoration to your loved ones.

And why do we have hope? We have hope because we’ve seen Him move in our own lives.

At one time, we were far away from God (Eph 2:3), but through miracles he brought us into relationship with him and now we get to live in the abundance of His kingdom.

If he can do that for us, who’s to say he can’t do that for your brother? your sister? your mom? your dad? He can do it and he will do it through our prayers. God’s heart is for all of us to walk in relationship with him, and that includes every single person in your family (1 Tim 2:3-4).

So don’t give up when you haven’t seen fruit yet. Keep praying.

“Love believes all things."

Don’t give up when you see setbacks in their lives, because there were setbacks in you coming to know God, too. “Love endures all things."

Don’t give up when they hurt you or let you down. God will not give up on them. Press on and continue to love them. "Love bears all things.”

And never give up the hope you have for their FULL restoration. Love hopes all things.


God we pray for the courage to believe that you will restore the brokenness in our families. We pray that you would help our unbelief when its hard for us to have hope. We pray that you would protect our families and that you would draw them into your heart. We pray that they would know you in the same way that we have come to know you. We pray for full restoration in our families. Amen.


Author | Devon Radford

Remedy | Depression

Remedy | Depression

In May of 2010 I graduated high school. Instead of going off to college with the rest of my friends, I had decided to join the Army. I wanted to serve just like both of my grandfathers did in WWII and Korea. All I wanted to do was just get one deployment to Iraq or Afghanistan and be able to know that I really served. We trained all the time and then one day we got orders to go.

Finally. I was excited. I was ready. I was physically and emotionally invested into this and so ready to go.

Then, I was devastated.

When I was home on pre-deployment leave visiting my family, I was notified that we were no longer going. I was crushed.

There were other deployment opportunities that followed, and I tried to get in on all of them, but they also fizzled out.

When I got out of the Army, I felt lost. I kept thinking of what might have been if I deployed. There was what felt like a big hole in my heart. I was angry that I did not do what I had set out to do. I was in a serious depression, and nobody knew.

I was able to hide it like someone hides their face behind a mask on Halloween. I tried to make my life on the outside look great, but on the inside, I was hurting. I felt like I failed and every time someone thanked me for my service it brought back the reminder of what I did not accomplish. I would be attacked in dreams that felt so real I would wake up sweating.

That sadness and feeling of failure and loneliness continued to cast a shadow for two years after I had gotten out.

I cannot tell you exactly tell you when or where I was when I fully committed to no longer be controlled by depression.

It did not happen all at once. I was not instantaneously healed. There were things I had to change about myself before I was no longer controlled by depression.

The first was rededicating myself back to serving God. While I was in the service I put God on the shelf and did not live life that reflected of him.

Second was kicking bad habits like excessive drinking and tobacco. Not doing things that fuel your depression is important.

Thirdly, I accepted that what happened happened. I cannot control the past, but I would take charge in my future. Taking charge meant letting God take charge and me moving towards him.

Lastly, I decided to live in truth and joy knowing that I will always belong to God. I am not telling you all this to make it seem like you must have something as serious as what I went through to have depression. On the contrary, no matter how big or how small, depression is depression, and it affects us all the same. Recognizing it and working to fight against it is the most important thing.

The best piece of advice that I could give to anyone who is suffering through depression is to talk to someone.

I personally went and talked to a Christian counselor and being able to open to someone I had no personal relationship with was huge. I had no fear of judgement that I would have felt if it had been a friend or family member.

When I was finally able to talk about it, I felt a burden lifted from me. Dark places do not exist when light is shed on them. It is extremely tough taking that first step no matter how big or how small the thing or things are that are causing depression, but it is so worth it once you do it.

I am not meant to live in depression. You are not meant to live in depression. WE are not meant to live in depression. While there are moments where we slip into states of thinking of what could have been or what was, we cannot let them take hold and control us. We need to rebuke the sadness that comes with them and rejoice in where God has brought us to now and where he is still leading us.


Author | Sam Carroll

Remedy | Body Image

Remedy | Body Image

Body image. It’s an issue that can stare us down whether there’s a mirror around or not. Sometimes it’s a buzzing nuisance and sometimes it’s an unavoidable roar.
In our culture, appearance can make or break our identity.
Scripture says a big fat no to this one.

God says we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14)

God says that He does not look at outward appearance, but the heart. (1 Samuel 16:7)

God says our appearance may be wasting away, but our heart is being renewed each day. (2 Corinthians 4:16)

God says that our beauty does not come from our appearance, but our spirit. (1 Peter 3:3-4)
Still, we have been asked to navigate an image-obsessed culture with grace and integrity.

Image affects our career, our relationships and our achievements.

Even how we feel about our image can damage these parts of our lives.

But there is a steady truth about our image in these verses. It has nothing to do with us and our outward efforts. It has everything to do with God’s work in our spirit, heart and soul.

When you struggle with the buzz or the roar, return to these verses. Speak truth over yourself.

Gather confidence from the fact that God is daily creating life and beauty within you with a renewed spirit, heart and soul.

People will be attracted to your peaceful confidence.



Thank you for this body. Thank you for how it moves and works in this life. I’m sorry for when I obsess over my appearance. Please replace those thoughts with thoughts of your truth about beauty. Thank you for renewing my spirit every day. I pray that I can walk in the confidence of a man/woman of God who knows where his/her beauty comes from. I love you. Amen.


Author | Claire Jordan

Remedy | Fear & Anxiety

Remedy | Fear & Anxiety

College is a weird time. You have to learn how to balance a number of things, like living on your own, creating new friendships, and figuring out what you want to do with your life, all while maintaining decently good grades.

This can be a lot, and eventually, things start to get tough.

Anxieties and fears and doubts slip in, and it can sometimes feel like you're so overwhelmed by your circumstances that you can't figure out where to go next. But, hope remains.

Matthew 6:34 tells us: "Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble." This is the culmination of an entire passage that begins by telling us not to be anxious about our lives, as God will take care of all the things we might be anxious about.

God is telling us that we should not worry over even the smallest of details, as it is all in his hands.

This can be hard to do, especially when anxiety is your current reality. Sometimes, we might not even realize what is causing us to be filled with fear or anxiety.

In this case, the best thing to do is ask God to take away our anxieties and doubts. To simply lay down at the feet of Jesus any anxiety that we have is a good first step to overcoming these weights in our lives.

God wants us to give Him our doubts and our fears - He wants to sit with us as we work through them and heal us from what might cause them.

This is who He is.

Anxiety can be difficult to overcome, and it takes time. But when we realize we have a God who wants to take it from us and replace our fears with joy, we can start a grace-filled journey toward redemption.


Author | Caitlin Cooper

Remedy | Anger

Remedy | Anger

Anger is kind of a weird thing to talk about. I usually think of it as a moment or short-term emotion, but when I really think about what anger is, I realize that it is more than a strong unpleasant feeling. It is practice for how we react to things.

We can look at James 1:19-20 to unpack this a more. It says “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.”

I think this gives us good advice on how we should react to any situation.First, we should be quick to hear. This is so different from a lot of people’s natural instinct. Most of the time when we are wronged or when we receive bad news, the first thing we do is let our emotions have the first say. We allow our actions to be dictated by what we’ve heard and it’s probably because we are not taking the time to actually listen.

So, what does it mean to listen?

It does not just mean hearing the words that are coming out of someone’s mouth, but taking the time to see where they are coming from. It is so important that we try to understand other’s perspective before coming to our own conclusions. More importantly, we have to learn to see things from God’s perspective.

Next, we should be slow to speak. I think this is the time that allows God to speak into a situation.This is time that we can use to control our emotions instead of letting our emotions control us. This pause time is also a huge act of humility. Whenever we are quick to react with anger and judgement, it tells the other person you do not really care what they have to say, and that your thoughts are more important than theirs. When we take time to listen to what God says we are saying that we don't know everything and we need God’s help.

Finally, we should be slow to anger. I think this simply means that we shouldn't let so many things bother us. In other words, don't sweat the small stuff, and probably not the medium sized stuff either. As mentioned earlier, we have to see things from God’s perspective and have the same mindset. We have to think “does this really matter?” and actually be honest with ourselves.

Okay, so yes this looks like a simple three step process, but I get that it’s not that easy. And what if there is something really big that’s worth getting angry about? After all, even God was angry some times. I think we are supposed to start with the small stuff. Relearning how to react and allowing that practice to come into play when bigger things do come up.

Invite God into your emotions and reactions. Start with the small stuff, like maybe a roommate not doing the dishes, and before speaking to them, ask God what He has to say about the situation. When we invite God into the small stuff and practice it daily, it gets a lot easier to bring Him into the bigger stuff.


Author | Kourtney Axelberg

Featured Article | God's Remedies are Redemptive

Featured Article | God's Remedies are Redemptive

Wesley just started a 4-week series on learning how God provides us remedies from anxiety, depression, and addiction. Many of those struggles have roots in things our friends and families have said to us and generational sins that our parents, grandparents, and distant ancestors struggled with. However, with the help of the Holy Spirit our Comforter, we can be free of anxieties, depression, and addictions.

In the twenty-first century, many of our distractions come from technology, innovations, and the weight of unrealistic expectations. And that definitely applies to American Christianity as well. We like for things to happen quickly and perfectly the first time we try them. We don’t like to wait. Often times we throw our struggles into the heavenly crockpot and expect them to be cooked as if they were in a microwave. Unfortunately, God likes to take his time.

We’ll talk about how trusting in Jesus can help deal with all of the curveballs that the enemy and life can throw at us.

Jesus isn’t just an idea - he’s a person.

We like to think of Jesus, in Bob’s words, as our “heavenly sugar daddy” or a myth in a castle that floats in the sky. However, the Bible paints a much more challenging canvas. Jesus was spat at, rejected, almost run off a cliff, and murdered, all for us.

“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through him, and without him was not anything made that was made. In him was life, and the life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.”
‭‭John‬ 1:1-5 ESV

So if Jesus truly experienced that sort of hardship, is he still a myth or is he actually a person? In reality, Jesus had to be a person so he could feel what sin felt like without ever actually doing it, so he could serve us and tell us what the true nature of the Father was. That’s nuts! He also said the greatest of us would be the greatest servant, and Jesus literally gave up his spot in heaven and bridged a gap that we would never be able to cross just to say “I love you. You’re my favorite.” TO YOU.

Putting your faith in the perfect character of Jesus reveals his goodness over time. The more you walk with him, the more you realize how he empathizes with you and wants to reveal his goodness to you, and you can actually start walking in freedom through those victories.

God isn’t scared of our humanity.

Because Jesus can empathize with our pain and he understands it completely, he’s more than willing to dive into our mess and help us out of it. Thus, he can tend to us in our humanity. In John 8, Jesus encounters a woman who is about to be stoned for adultery, and instead of punishing her, here’s what happens:

“But when they heard it, they went away one by one, beginning with the older ones, and Jesus was left alone with the woman standing before him. Jesus stood up and said to her, ‘Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?’ She said, ‘No one, Lord.’ And Jesus said, ‘Neither do I condemn you; go, and from now on sin no more.’”
‭‭John‬ ‭8:9-11‬ ‭ESV‬‬

Not only does he address the problem, he forgives the woman for her sin and sends her off in peace. Beautiful! That’s what Jesus does also with your sin, shame, and struggles: he gives you a clean slate and replaces lies with truth. Granted, it does take time, but the journey is worth it. Jesus promised in Philippians 1 that he intends to finish the journeys he starts in us, especially when he invites us to trust in him for peace in anxiety, joy in depression, and patience in struggling with addictions.

God encounters us in our suffering.

“Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”
Romans 5:3-5

Our anxieties, depression, or addictions aren’t any laughing matter. They are hard, and the lies that these things are based out of are challenging and seem to build up every day. However, since Jesus isn’t afraid of our mess, he reminds us of who we are in him, and leads us patiently into freedom.

God may not take things away overnight, but His grace is sufficient through the suffering of our anxieties, depression, and addictions. His grace builds our character to uproot the lies we believe and it teaches us how to forgive people who have told us those lies.

One of the final scenes in Moana is when Moana is restoring the heart of Te Fiti who, without her heart, is a lava monster. Once her heart is restored, she once again became the loving Mother Earth deity she was meant to be. Lies we hear from other people can be like Maui stealing the heart. But, Jesus gives us the grace to fail and embraces the anxieties, depression, and addictions that came from those lies. Because of this, and only this, we are able to be restored to our true selves.


Author | Brad Schiebel

Remedy | Comparison

Remedy | Comparison

A 17 year old Olympic snowboarder just won the US their first gold medal of the games, despite losing his coat and waking up late.

I, a 21 year old, sit on my couch watching him win. Meanwhile, proud of myself for eating a salad for dinner.

Of course, this is an extreme example and I hope that people do not actually watch the Olympics and question their worth. Regardless, comparison sucks and it is something that everyone will deal with to some capacity in their life.

Someone once told me that there is no love in comparison. If you are comparing yourself to others in a way to boost yourself up, then you are not showing love to that person. On the other hand, if you are comparing yourself to others in a way that is pulling yourself down, there is no love for yourself in that.

As I see it there are two solutions to comparison: become the best at absolutely everything OR understand the worth that you have in the Lord. As daunting of a task it sounds to grasp your worth, it is definitely the easier of the two options. There is always going to be someone who is better, faster, stronger, smarter, etc. than you. The key is learning that despite this, you are still valuable and important to the kingdom of God.

In 1 Corinthians 12, Paul speaks to the church of Corinth about the importance of each person in the body. We find at the beginning of chapter 12 that the reason for this is comparison. People had been having issues because of what spiritual gifts each person had been given and this was causing disunity among the church.

Paul goes on to describe to them that every single one of them has an important role to play in the body of Christ no matter what gift they have and without this diversity, the body would not be able to function.

Out of this entire passage I think that my favorite verse would have to be 12:18 which says: "But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as He wanted them to be."

We all have growing to do and hopefully we all will spend the rest of our lives moving towards being more like Christ, but God created you just as he wanted. Grasping this is not something you can do overnight. It is something that takes time, lots of prayer, and a constant effort to shut lies down when they try to tell you that you don't have as much worth because that person has more friends or success than you.

Imagine a world where you genuinely celebrate others for their accomplishments, and you don't measure yourself up to others every time you accomplish something. It may be hard to get there, but it is possible, and it is worth it.


Author | Madeline Current

Remedy | Loneliness

Remedy | Loneliness

In Deuteronomy 31:8, God is preparing to lead the Israelites into the promised land after almost five hundred years. However, he is telling Moses that he can't pass because he disobeyed God.

However, through Moses' failure, God is saying that he is already moving ahead of them and preparing a place for them. Basically, we are free to trust in God to provide for our needs and to ask relentlessly.

As a body, God is asking us to trust his guidance. If he has truly gone before us to work things out for his glory, we need to trust that He isn't leaving our side.

Ask for things in prayer. Read scripture daily. Don't give in to temptations and transplant lies & shame with truth. Get involved in community to fight side-by-side with your brothers and sisters! Always look for ways to give back to others and to invite them into community and a relationship with God.

Practically, set up a prayer plan. Challenge yourself to read at least one chapter of Scripture a day and take notes on it. Then, pray for what you want to see God move in. Pray until you see results. Pray until God breaks down your walls for you to see his fatherly love shine into the broken areas of your life. This is merely an invitation, not an obligation! It's only that way because he loves us.


Author | Brad Schiebel

Remedy | Bullying

Remedy | Bullying

When we first think of the word “bullying,” it is easy to go back to when we were young and experienced someone not being nice to us. Hurtful things people have told us in the past or even very recently experiences can really affect us as individuals.

Often we tend to try and overlook or downplay different remarks in order to not seem weak, overly emotional, or for various other reasons. However, the comments and actions of others can cut us deep and have lasting affects if we choose to carry them instead of fight for the truth.

Many times it is easy for us to exist without even realizing the ways that we have been hurt. Other times, our flesh only wants to see those that have hurt us get what “they deserve.” Our mind can become polluted with negative thoughts or desires against a person that has hurt us, which only ultimately puts us in bondage.

In Luke 6:27-28, it says: “But I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.” Isn’t it crazy how Jesus literally flips upside down how our flesh would handle things?

Then, in Romans 12:20-21 it is written: “To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”

Jesus tells us to provide for any need our persecutors have. Out of the love that we give them, our persecutors start to realize the areas they hurt and then tend to hurt others out of that place.

Take the time to identify the areas that you have been hurt by others, are currently being persecuted, or have or are persecuting others. God wants to speak into all of those areas. He doesn’t ask us to all at once dig up everything from our past, but rather just leave room for Him to speak. Areas of hurt that we may have tried to brush aside, He wants to bring healing. He doesn’t ask us to stay in those places of hurt because He is just that good.

Psalm 18:3 says “I called to the Lord, who is worthy of praise, and I have been saved from my enemies.” He just asks us to call on His name and pursue to live by His standard of truth, nothing less.


God, I thank you that you are so good. I thank you that you never ask me to settle for anything less than your truth. Holy Spirit, please reveal to me the areas that I have been hurt by others and have tried to ignore. I ask that you speak into those areas. Please reveal to me the truth of what you have to say. I ask for the grace in processing through that pain and to make it nothing less and nothing more than what it is. God, please reveal to me if there is anyone or any area where I have persecuted others. Please show me if there is an area I hurt in and therefore persecute others. God, I ask that you would fill me up with your love. May I learn to love myself the way that you love me and in turn love others with that same love as well.


Author | Jamie Cherf

Remedy | Unforgiveness

Remedy | Unforgiveness

We’ve all had someone slight us, not live up to our expectations or hurt us in some way. It happens. We’re all human.

When we are hurt, we’ve all probably been advised to follow the age-old adage “forgive and forget.”

In my past, the way I understood forgiveness was in a passive, push the hurt under the rug, sort of way. And I think a lot of us end up thinking about forgiveness that way.

But that’s not at all how the Bible actually tells us to forgive. It’s a lot more active than just dismissing the hurt someone caused you.

Forgiveness, by definition, means to grant relief from payment of a debt or other harm caused to us.

That means, first, admitting that you were hurt, accepting that someone has taken something from you (that could be peace, joy, physical well being, monetary possessions, you name it) and then literally deciding that they no longer owe you what they took.

Practically, think about if a close friend said something rude to you. You’re immediate reaction is probably to desire an apology from them.

If you don’t admit that you were hurt by this (even if it’s just to yourself), you might allow it to fester in your heart and turn into bitterness toward them.

So in your heart, you say, “wow that hurt, but I’m going to lay down bitterness and decide that they don’t owe me an apology.”

Even if, by most standards, they should apologize to you.  

It would be awesome if they did apologize, but forgiveness is a whole lot more about the position of your heart than the position of theirs.    

There are a lot of calls to forgiveness in the Bible (Matthew 6:14-15, Matthew 18:21-22, Luke 6:37 to name a few), but the verse I think that best describes what God is asking us to do is Colossians 3:13.

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.   

The words “bear with each other” to me means more than just relieving a payment due. It means continuing to love someone well despite being hurt and not letting silly things put distance between you and the person that hurt you.

That’s exactly what God does for us. Think about all the times you have ignored God, not trusted Him, not loved Him well and much, much more. Not only does He forgive these things we do, but He went to the very extreme to show us His love and affection.

He forgave us of our sins—all the ways we fall short of His glory—through the exchange payment of His son, Jesus in order to re-establish a relationship that we damaged in the first place.  

So let’s choose to forgive, as our Father in Heaven chose to forgive us.


Author | Lindsey Conway

Testimony Video | The Wesley Internship

In this video, Colin Chance, a first-year Wesley intern, explains why saying "yes" to the Wesley internship was the best decision of his life.